Happy Monday! Last week, prior to the weekly video recap, I wrote a post called “Larry David and a memorial.” If you haven’t gotten the chance to check either of those out yet, please do! Have you ever noticed a common theme that runs through most of my posts? It’s my biggest motivator in life.
Why do you do the things you do day-in and day-out? If you’re in a certain field or profession, why did you choose that field? If you book a vacation, why do you plan it out the way you do or choose the destination you choose? Most of the decisions I make come from a place of joy and love. Love is the biggest motivator, and although it has blown up in everyone's face on more than one occasion, we keep loving. Why? Because Love is the whole reason we’re here. That's nothing new. The greatest works of art - music, movies, television, plays, books, music - revolve around love.
Love lastsThere’s a fun improv exercise that’s been circulating through a couple of my teams recently called ‘hot takes’ where we’ll get a one word suggestion and then different members of the team will rant about whatever comes to mind. Many people rant about things they hate, but I tend to rant about things I love: things that give me feelings of warmth and joy. When you think of things or people you love, do you notice the small smile that forms on your face or the warmth you feel in your heart? There’s a comfort and security in love that is so simple and yet so valuable. People don’t talk about the things they love enough; hate’s easy, but it’s fleeting. Even after someone passes away, love continues on. Ask anyone who has lost someone he loves, and you'll see how quickly the good memories flood her mind - the loved one's trademark stories, their idiosyncrasies and quirks.
I’m writing this post from my parents’ house in New Jersey. I landed at the Philadelphia airport about an hour-and-a-half ago and am sitting at our kitchen booth, looking outside at gently falling snow. Archy is barking at God only knows what, and Amos Lee is playing softly in the background on my parents’ Alexa machine (they were really excited to show me how it works last time I was home). I’ve recovered my favorite Wawa drink from the fridge that I left there a week ago (the fact that neither my younger brothers nor my younger sister drank it in the week I’ve been home in LA is proof that miracles exist), and I’m contemplating what type of hoagie I’m inevitably going to order for lunch from Waller's.
Why come home to my parents' house when I was here less than a week ago (I literally landed back in LA last Monday afternoon and here I am Monday morning back in the Philly area)? For Love, of course. For Love of my Alma Mater: Villanova is in the NCAA Men’s Basketball National Championship tonight versus Michigan, and there was no way I was going to watch the game not surrounded by Villanova fans this time around; for Love of my career: I have a potential opportunity to work and film out here in the Philadelphia area; and for Love of my family: as you read in last week’s post on Wednesday, my family suffered a loss and if all else falls through, I will still get to spend some more time with them, getting back to my roots. If you know me, you know that I believe time is the most valuable thing you can give to someone, which is why I try to devote as much time as possible to the people and things I love.
I understand how easy it can be to hate because there’s no long-term commitment to it; hate fades. Love might seem difficult sometimes because of the long-term commitment aspect, but with real love comes a safety, peace, and security to which hate can never hold a candle. What do you love? Who do you love? Make sure you’re on your own list, and everything else will fall into place. And reach out to the people you love to let them know or to remind them that you love them and that they're worth loving. Love begets love, and the world could always use a little more love.
And Let’s March ‘Nova. I love you. Let’s do this tonight. \V/
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