to thine own self be true
Happy Monday! Last week I wrote about embracing the unknown and staying open to new opportunities. I wasn’t able to do my usual hike video recap in Malibu, but that’s because it is so true that when one door closes another one opens. Last week was an incredibly busy week. Garage Band had practice on Tuesday, which was so fun. I wrote briefly about it in Wednesday’s post, but there was one scene that stuck out to me more than most.
In one of the scenes, my partner and I played a couple in an open relationship. I was labeled the “king of monogamy” while my partner was the “queen of polygamy.” It was a fun take on an open relationship type of situation, and it was a fairly easy game for me to play since I tend to be a one-on-one type of person in real life anyway.
I’ve written before about starting where you are, and I’ve mentioned numerous times that you just as you are is enough, and the King of Monogamy scene felt exactly like that. Every character you play is going to have some of you in it because you are playing your version of the character! The reason the “King of Monogamy” scene worked was because I was really just playing myself in the scene and singing about being monogamous. Even though my scene partner was the open half of the open relationship, the focus was on the character who was okay with staying true in an open situation.
You must not let anyone change the things you value or the way you view the world. If the king of monogamy had changed his point of view, the song would have lost its simple comedic effect. Life can be like that, too. If you change your values just to appease another person or situation, you’ll lose part of what makes you unique and great. Everyone places different value amounts of importance on different things, so just make sure you're staying true to your values and communicating them effectively.
It’s worth mentioning that the king of monogamy and the queen of polygamy did not fight in their scene. The king of monogamy accepted his queen for who she was, while the queen of polygamy actually tried to encourage the king to change his ways and break from his traditional, monogamous habits. It didn’t happen. The king of monogamy remained true to himself, while the queen of polygamy stayed true to herself. She couldn't believe that the king was okay with the situation, but he was. The king realized that the queen sleeping around with other people didn’t have to affect his self-worth if he didn’t let it. You can only control yourself in life, so make sure you're effectively communicating with healthy boundaries in place.
Sort of a roundabout way to talk about staying true to yourself and your values while doing comedy, huh? Well check back in Wednesday when I’ll be writing about my experiences on set last week! Thank you so much for reading, and, as always, if you have any pressing questions or if you want to discuss something further with me, feel free to subscribe below or reach out to me on the “contact” page. I’m so grateful you're here and that I’ve been getting a lot of really challenging questions and even better feedback from a community all over the world. I couldn’t do this without you! So THANK YOU! I’m here for you, and I love hearing from you, too! You’re the best, and you have everything you need inside of you! Please believe it! Starve your ego, feed your soul - and follow your heart!
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