timing is everything
Happy Wednesday! And HAPPY PI DAY!!! It's one of my favorite days of the year, and I can't wait for the pizza pie I'm going to devour later! On Monday, I wrote a post called “lean into the arts,” which was about the importance of art and, more personally, a specific storyline of “This Is Us.” Today’s post is about recognizing and appreciating signs and the timing of things in life.
Have you ever noticed the funny timing of things in life? Timing is everything. I was speaking with a friend recently who was talking about signs vs. coincidences. I think that a lot of things in life are coincidences: wearing the same sweater as someone else - or the same dress to a formal event (this has happened to me.. ugh!).
And then I think that there are a lot of things that are signs and that are not coincidences. In dating, it’s those infamous red flags that point to the type of person you’re dating. In your career, it’s a new job opportunity that pops up when you were just craving a change. In shifting to a new place, it’s finding and connecting with like-minded people.
Many people write that you attract like-minded people, but that’s not 100% accurate. You can attract all types of people, but it’s the like-minded ones who stick around. Not everyone is going to have the same world view as you, and that’s okay. People come in and out of your life at all different times for all different sorts of reasons - even if it’s to show you what you will not accept in your life. Some people will just be background in your story, while others will have more prominent roles. It's the same way for you in their lives; sometimes you're a co-star, sometimes you're background.
Isn’t that why there are some relationships that last and some that don’t? Think of the people you consider your closest friends - the five people with whom you spend the most time or with whom you speak the most. Of all the people I consider my closest friends, we all have similar values. We’re not all exact replicas of each other because we’re from all over different parts of the country with different upbringings and backgrounds, but the core values all tend to line up. Of your closest friends, do you notice certain traits or patterns? How about shared world views?
That’s not coincidence. That’s a sign that these people are meant to be in your life because they’ll understand how you see the world in ways a lot of other people might not. These people are meaningful, and their relationships with you matter. They’re the people you can tell anything to without judgment but will still be honest with you - the ones who will be there for you no matter what and who will help you with whatever you need to figure out.
And sometimes, if you’re really lucky, you’ll get a sign you need on a random Taco Tuesday at an impromptu Weezer concert you stumbled upon while walking home with one of your closest friends. LA really is awesome sometimes.
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