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know what to look for

Happy Monday! Prior to last week’s Friday video recap, I wrote a post called “find your tribe.” This post will be an extension of that one in case you haven’t had the chance to read it. It’s so important when looking for your tribe that you know what makes you compatible with different types of people.

The world is a beautiful place filled with all different types of characters and personalities. It can be tricky to navigate sometimes, but finding your tribe also goes along with the idea of being value-driven. You have to know what to look for.

A few weeks ago I sat in on a set with one of my teammates from Camp Hickory to help out since his other team was light on bodies for the night. We did a love-themed show where teams would improvise their sets based on an audience member’s monologue (most of the monologues were performed by other improvisers). Most of the stories revolved around breakups, love lost, and falling for the wrong kind of person.

Have you ever noticed that people often think of heartbreak before they think of joyful love? It’s easy when you’re single and you’re navigating the dating world because you don’t have someone you’re attached to with whom you’ve built a solid foundation. Everyone wants a safe harbor and someone to come home to at the end of the day. Seeing that most of the monologues had a bittersweet or sad feeling to them, I decided I would give a monologue that wasn’t sad.

For my monologue, I shared details about a love that brought me so much joy. I talked about the family I nannied for when I first moved to Los Angeles and how rewarding it was to teach the little boy right from wrong and how to treat others with respect. I talked about how it was fun and heartwarming to play hide-and-seek with someone who couldn’t stay hidden because he was too excited to play together, and I talked about how it was so beautiful to see empathy and love in its purest form. I, for sure, gushed about how much I loved my little bud and how much I appreciated that family for giving me such a solid support system and foundation in a new city and new part of the country.

The team that did a set off my monologue decided to make it something it wasn’t, going for what I've been told is called "low-hanging fruit." But it's okay because that team played really well together and all understood the different types of scenes they were playing! I wasn't personally offended, but it made me appreciate my team that much more.

That team knew what humor works for them and what to look for when forming their tribe. I look at the teams I’m on, and I’m so happy to be surrounded by my friends because they’re the types who only ever build up others’ joy instead of poking holes at it or making fun of it. Those are the types of people I love having in my life, but I also appreciate the other views and perspectives.

Not everyone is going to understand you or the way you view the world, and that is more than okay. For every person who doesn’t, there will be someone who does. And there will even be some people who do understand it but don’t necessarily see it the same way. That’s great, too! That last group will be the people who push and challenge you the most. Hang onto them.

And when you find people who see the world the same way you do or at least respect the way you view the world - like a performer who came up to me this past week to tell me how much she loved my monologue - thank them and cherish them. In order to really find your tribe and your footing, you have to know what to look for.

Thank you so much for reading, and, as always, if you have any pressing questions or if you want to discuss something further with me, feel free to subscribe below or reach out to me on the “contact” page. I’m so grateful you're here and that I’ve been getting a lot of really challenging questions and even better feedback from a community all over the world. I couldn’t do this without you! So THANK YOU! I’m here for you, and I love hearing from you, too! You’re the best, and you have everything you need inside of you! Please believe it! Starve your ego, feed your soul - and follow your heart!

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