own your choices
Happy Monday! I hope everyone had a great weekend! Last week I wrote two posts prior to the video recap - “a Girl Scout Super Bowl” and “a little advice this Valentine’s Day.” If you didn’t get a chance to check them out, click the links to do so now!
I wanted to take today to write about something a lot of us experience but feel like we might not be able to talk about: doubts. Everyone has insecurities in life. Everyone has been through challenges and difficult times, which is why it’s so important to be kind to yourself and kind to others. At the end of the day and in the grand scheme of things, kindness is the most important thing.
Have you ever noticed the timing of some conversations and how they’re exactly the conversation you need to have at a given moment? I recently had a conversation with a couple girl friends of mine about our different life paths - one friend a couple years older and another a couple years younger.
My friend who initiated the conversation was struggling with uncertainty and a lot of doubt about her future, especially surrounding things she couldn’t control. After her vent session, I let her know that a lot of the things she was struggling with were also things I’ve been struggling with, too. She looked and felt relieved that someone else was having similar feelings, and it was only further validated when my other friend let us know that our conversation was an incredibly age-appropriate discussion.
People often ask me for advice. I am the first to admit that I don’t have everything figured out, and I honestly believe that anyone who says that she does is either lying or just unaware. No one has everything figured out because there’s no one set way to do anything. Isn’t that the old cliché: there’s more than one way to skin a cat? That being said, however, the one thing I have figured out is this: you are the choices you make, so own your choices. Your choices are grounded in knowing yourself and what you want from life, so make choices based on what you want your ideal life picture to look like. You can't expect it to happen, but you can hope for it. No one’s life will be perfect, but it’s important to strive for the things you want: the things that excite you and that bring you joy. More often than not, the winding, unexpected turns and paths are the most memorable and fulfilling.
I’ve written before about focusing on what you can control, and that is also a choice. On any given day, our brain makes millions of choices. I’ve made a lot of great choices, and I’ve also made a lot of not-so-great ones. But by owning your choices and seeing how they led you to where you are in the present, you are able to learn from them and grow into a better version of yourself based on your life experiences. I’m a firm believer in the little things becoming big things. Own your choices, be a good listener, be kind, do small things each day to get you closer to the type of future you see for yourself, and don’t over-worry about the things that are out of your control. And if you need to vent and talk to someone about it, do it. More often than not, you will find someone who is going through the same thing or who has already gone through it. We’re all in this crazy life thing together, so make choices that get you closer to your goals and that also do a little good in the process.
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