Happy Valentine’s Day! If you didn’t get the chance to read Monday’s post - “a Girl Scout Super Bowl” - check it out! Otherwise, I wanted to share a fun story about something that happened to me this past week in honor of one of my favorite days: Valentine’s Day!
On Monday night, I was able to participate in the show “A Little Advice,” hosted by Noëlle Horelik on UCB Sunset’s Main Stage. The show was a Q&A style format where the host asked kids ages 5-12 questions pertaining to love and dating. At the end of the show, two other participants and I got to ask the panel our own questions. Here are the big takeaways of what I learned about love and dating from some very wise children, which can hopefully also help you today of all days!
Be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not; you want someone to like you for who you are because who you are is great!
Don’t be cheap. Gentlemen, take your lady to a nice restaurant. It doesn’t have to break the bank, but don’t take her to fast food, either. (Also, it’s more impressive to pay with a debit than a credit card because that way your date knows you have money in the bank.) Also, ladies, you can take the initiative and ask for a date, too! It's 2018!
Emojis are gamechangers. Send that kissy face emoji right next to that winky face if you’re trying to flirt via text or when sliding into someone’s DMs. Be bold.
If you have a crush on someone, you should say “hi” to them and then see what they do.
Don't rush. Take things slow and get to know each other first. But also, don't let a boy get away with not making you his girlfriend after a month.
Give compliments but not too many compliments. Somewhere between 3 and 5 is good. But make sure to give specific compliments. “I like your hair” is generic, but “I like your Adidas sneakers” or “your blue eyes are so beautiful” shows that you’re paying attention to the specific details of a person. Attention is important.
When it came time for me to ask my question to the oh-so-wise kiddos, I asked them what I should talk about on a first date (since it’s been a good while since I’ve gone on a date). The kids asked me if I have any pets, so I said yes that I have a dog. They then told me that I should definitely talk about my dog a lot. Pets are a hot topic. But what they were really hinting at is that you should talk about things you love, which goes back to point number one.
Be yourself this Valentine’s Day. Whether you’re single, in a relationship, in love with someone you’re too afraid to tell, or spending your night performing comedy with your friends, you should never change who you are to fit someone else’s mold. You are amazing as yourself with all your life experiences and unique points of view based on those milestones. Embrace the things that make you unique, love the things that make you unique, and then talk about those things you love loudly and proudly…. hopefully, eventually on a first date when you’re ready to get out there again and find someone who loves all the same weird things you love. Adults tend to overcomplicate things; just keep it simple!
Happy Valentine’s Day! I hope your day is filled with all kinds of magic, especially of the self-love variety. And if you don’t have plans and are in the LA area, I will be performing back-to-back musical improv shows at the Clubhouse at 8:30 PM and 10 PM. I hope to see you there; no one should ever feel alone on such a love-filled day!
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